"…we know that suffering produces perseverance; perseverance, character; and character, hope. And hope does not put us to shame, because God’s love has been poured out into our hearts through the Holy Spirit, who has been given to us." (Romans 5:3b-5 NIV)
there is tremendous grace in suffering -- not because of the pain of the
suffering itself but because suffering allows us to reorient ourselves in ways
that we simply could never have done had life proceeded in an untroubled
manner. Suffering gives us the occasion
to listen as we never have listened before -- both to new words and to new
sources of wisdom -- and to turn listening into seeing.
William Long & Glandion Carney in A Hard-Fought Hope