MARITAL COMMUNICATION

A marriage can be likened to a large house with many rooms to which a couple fall heir on their wedding day.  Their hope is to use and enjoy these rooms, as we do the rooms in a comfortable home, so that they will serve the many activities that make up their shared life.  But in many marriages, doors are found to be locked -- they represent areas in the relationship which the couple are unable to explore together.  Attempts to open these doors lead to failure and frustration.  The right key cannot be found.  So the couple resign themselves to living together in only a few rooms that can be opened easily, leaving the rest of the house, with all its promising possibilities, unexplored and unused.

There is, however, a master key that will open every door.  It is not easy to find.  Or, more correctly, it has to be forged by the couple together, and this can be very difficult.  It is the great art of effective marital communication.

-- David and Vera Mace in We Can Have Better Marriages If We Really Want Them


#3515