We may want to talk about our loved one frequently; in fact we may fear that our need to talk is excessive. But talking about a loved one who died is a testament to that person's life. It is a reflection of all that person offered to us and to others. It signifies that our loved one had a unique personality and character and was a strong influence in our lives, that he or she gave something valuable to us and received from us as well.
the person alive in important ways. It confirms that our loved one will be an
ongoing part of our lives and the lives of those around us, that he or she came
into this world and had an impact, and shall live in our hearts and minds
Carol Staudacher in A Time To Grieve: Meditations For Healing After The
Death Of A Loved One