"Finally, brothers and sisters, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable -- if anything is excellent or praiseworthy -- think about such things." (Philippians 4:8)
Most of us, unfortunately,... say things like: "He made me so mad." "You really get to me." "Her remark embarrassed me terribly." "The weather really depresses me."... We are content to blame others, circumstances, and bad luck... [But] we can rise above the dust of daily battle that chokes and blinds so many of us; and this is precisely what is asked of us in the process of growth as a person.
-- John Powell, quoted by Gary Smalley in Making Love Last Forever